how to say this to her??? i am getting divorced. the process has just begun. i have been dating some,girl more than others. I like her BUT am not ready to be committed. she said last night that I can date but to let her know if I plan on it with someone else. I like her but dont want to have to tell her "hey I am going to go to happy hour with this girl from work" kinda thing. thats just weird. but what is the alternative then...it seems to me it is dont see her at all right now b/c we are indiff places... i have been in a committed relationship for xyears...im x. I cant slip right into another I need to be un accountable and just free to do what I want right now... damn...

say this i have been in a committed relationship for xyears...im x. I cant slip right into another I need to be un accountable and just free to do what I want right now... It's true, it's valid, it's honest. She can like it or not, her choice, but you've told no lies.

Wise bitch here^

wrong. don't tell her shit.

this sentence "It's true, it's valid, it's honest. She can like it or not, her choice, but you've told no lies." really hit home... thank you. this is how I want to live. i am afraid to lose her but it is a risk i may need to take right now. im not healthy for her or a relationship yet.

:)

Well then there ya go! & yes, by being honest you risk a loss too (her choosing not to pick up what you're layin down) The thing is, people can be compatible but their situations may not currently match, which will lead to hurt feelings & conflict. Neitherof you is unreasonable in your desires, & you both deserve to have what you want.

once a chump, always a chump

explain to her you are not ready to be exclusive let her decide if she's ok with that

wrong. don't tell her shit.

ps!!!!!!!! last night i told her this... that i cant be "answering to anyone" right now. she said ok, just let her know if I want to go out with someone else and she will either deal or not... not sure she understood what I was saying..