weird reaction to domination I hope it's okay to ask more of a touchy-feely question. I've had a variety of submissive fantasies for a long time, and I've recently been playing with someone who has the complementary tendencies. It's not my first kink experience, but it'sof the first, and we've had a handful of encounters. The status of our 'relationship,' such as it is, is a bit unclear, because of constraints of circumstance, which has been fine with me. He seems, though, to women ready spanish dating me--outside the bedroom, he is always telling me how perfect I am, etc., and he has been pressing for a relationship with me. I know this is strange, especially since I have always had a fantasy about being 'used' sexually, but something about our last encounter made me feel used in a bad way. I just felt like me and my pleasure did not matter to him, like I was sort of a masturbation prop for him, like the sex we were having didn't really have anything to do with me. I can't point to exactly what he did 'wrong'--it's not like he did anything outrageous or anything--but I seem to have lost my desire to see him again. He did sort of 'stop the action' before I had my orgasm, but I have had orgasmless sex before and not had any kind of negative reaction to it. I'm not sure what this means: that I'm not really a genuine submissive? that I'm women ready spanish dating site of going deeper into my sexuality? that there's something about him that's not good for me? I'd women ready speed dating say that my gut is telling me to stay away from this man. He has been texting, e-mailing, etc. and I've just been avoiding him for the last x hours. I'm hoping someone has some insight.

I'm not sure how you'll be able to figure out if he's not right for you by ignoring him. Did he physiy women ready spokane hookers you without your permission, or ignore your safeword (if you used it)? Maybe you should try talking to him and expressing how you felt about that last encounter. He might not have meant to make you feel so slighted. I'm kind of at a loss for this

no, he did not ignore a safeword, or women ready star dating me beyond my comfort level. In retrospect--it's a little hard to sort it all out--it seems like it was about his attitude. I like to be ed names, etc., but it women ready strings attached seemed like there was some rage behind it that was scary. women ready student sex parties like he was punishing some women ready sugar babies from his memory and taking it out on me. I really felt women ready sugar baby like I wasn't a human being to him at that moment, or something like that, but I can't point to why exactly I felt that way. I'm not normally supersensitive about sex or relationships, so I'm really at a loss to what this means (i.e. maybe it means that I'm somehow not being true to myself in playing with kink).

I'll go with my initial thought, which is that you should tell him all of this. Just let him know your concerns, talk about everything you felt during your encounter, as well as afterwards. If you still have a bad feeling after a discussion, then you'll know what you should do. As far as questioning your own submissiveness, I wouldn't be so quick to do that. There are sorts of subs in this world. When I'm in the submissive role, I am women ready sugar daddies -degradation among many other things. That doesn't make me any less of a sub.

In my experience Some guys think dominating is all about using you, where you do all the giving without getting anything back. I'm sure there are subs out there who like that, but you shouldn't have to deal with that if it makes you feel uncomfortable. Either tell him how the whole experience made you feel and try to work on it together, or find yourself a better women ready sugar daddy .

can you say a little more about this? I think this is on the right track. How do I explain (to him or a future lover) that the fact that I am submissive does not mean that my pleasure does not count, etc.? or how do I discover in advance whether they have that sort of attitude about domination? I'm sorry to be so slow. I'm just trying to figure out how to set myself up in a situation that will let me explore without feeling this way.

You should say "the fact that I am submissive does not mean that my pleasure does not count." That's a good start.