My take on humiliation... What makes something humiliating? It is something private or embarrassing viewed by someone else...and the humiliated ones beliefs about what the observer is thinking about them...is that true? If I peed my pants, it would not be humiliating unless someone else knew about it, correct? So, humiliation play, for me, with someone I trust is a little different. I view humiliation as another emotion, a dark and scarythat we usually all run from to avoid and forget. But, part of BDSM for me is self exploration, self actualization and self growth. Why I feel the way I feel...what exactly am I feeling? In a safe place I believe humiliation can be a positive and bonding experience forpeople and that is why it gets me off. The trust it takes to let go and feel those emotions, to feel that fear of possible disgust and senior searching virtual date , only to be loved and accepted more is HUGE for me. How do you feel about humiliation? And what humiliates you? Is it being ed a dirty filthy whore or other names? Is it being cummed on? Is it being "used"? Is it being made to do something that you shouldn't enjoy, but it's obvious that you do, and be ed out on it? Tell me...I'm curious!

Oh, I was just wanting to ask about this subject I have x desire to be humiliated myself. If that happened once, it wouldn't happen twice. But my question has to do with people who want me to humiliate them, especially verbally. I find it really, really hard to wrap my head around that. If I tell a guy (aswould like me to) that he's inadequate and not man enough to please me... well, if I really believed that, I wouldn't be with him. But even if I do it as a role play, once I've said those things, they're out there, and hard to take back. How do we then go out to dinner and have a perfectly normal time, now that I'm trying eat with someone inadequate? After you've done a scene with humiliation, how do you interact with that person in a more regular setting? Is it awkward? Do you still feel inferior? Do you just go, "Oh, that game is over with now"?

gai even when I have been humiliated, I have never ever felt inferior. Again, I attribute that to my partner. He is proud that I can allow myself to be exposed emotionally and rewards me for that.

But does he tell you things like you are inadequate and not woman enough to please him? That other women are far, far sexier than you, and he wishes he were with them right now? Somehow I don't think so (though I'm just guessing). I just don't know if I can tell someone that I respect and really like that he isn't any good. Even if he wants me to.

that is a very different kind of humiliation than what we do. He would NEVER do that because he knows that would injure me emotionally. I mean I couldn't respect anyone I would say those senior searching virtual dating of things to, and it may be because I am not a Domme. And even then, some senior searching wealthy dating don't do those kind of things. perhaps the way to look at it they are being honest with themselves for admitting they enjoy such things,and there is a certain amount of admiration to be had for that.

yeah..that is a little senior searching web cam chat ...men and women I think are a bit different in what they want, and what is effective humiliation for them.

Because if you read the cuckhold senior searching web cam dating they are very much like that...the men seem to respond and get off on that, but if a husband were to do that to his wife, she'd break down and cry..I doubt it would be hot for her. The kind of humiliation that a senior searching web cam sex does to his sub is more like using her in ways (ie fucking her ass) and making her admit how slutty she is for enjoying it because...he can tell by her senior searching web dating pussy...what a dirty little whore she is.. Or by being lead around the club on a leash like a dog...how can she be so proud and happy? Filthy, really....; )

See, leading someone around on a collar & leash, I could happily do that (it also doesn't seem humiliating to me). Maybe it's just because I am a woman and could imagine how such a thing would feel to me, that I can't do it to someone else. Although clearly plenty of women can. I can be stern, and I can give punishments, and I can even get angry, but... I can't belittle or mock or be verbally cruel.

I guess it's different when you are loved and appreciated for those things, and also when you trust the person enough to not look down on you because of them..to allow yourself to feel that shame and humiliation and know you will be brought back up. Kind of like when a parent throws the senior searching webcam chat up into the air..the senior searching webcam dating from the possibility of being dropped, the freefall...and the surge of trust when you're caught.

I guess... to me, it would feel like having my senior searching webcam xxx in front of me and telling someone else, "Oh, he's so stupid sometimes," and then telling him later I didn't mean it. Even if he forgave me, I'd never forgive myself. Oh, well. I guess I can't do everything!

I understand...but that wouldn't be consentual! I guess it's kinda hard to explain, and I would not have been down with ANY of it if I hadn't experienced it from someone I trusted and been completely (and surprisingly) turned on by it!