Let's talk about hard limits Have any of you said oh THIS is a hard limit and found yourself backtracking? Is there a difference between limits set in stone, like ,consent,etc and those that can and might be moved for the right person? If so,what made you change your mind?

hard limits are in most cases set in st ... such as pedophilia and the like that most people wont do..... and other limits can be tested.... depends on many things

well yes that is what is was asking for example I have a hard limit about super glue that was recently being challenged to some degree (talk only) because i trust him completely, it wasn't an issue I Know he would never violent true "hard limits" but there are some that have seem to become more "fluent"

ah i see well trust is the ultimate factor as to whats hard and or soft limits.... with absolute trust all things should end up being soft limits... in some manner i reckon....

i tend to agree

well thank you for that im a rather young guy and tend to get discredited by the older folks in the bdsm scene always nice to have someone agree in some degree to you....

while age has nothing to do with maturity it does have experience to speak from i welcome younger posters and enjoy their perspective you have a distinct advantage over us x somethings, discovering this at this stage of our lives

yeah.... i just meant that some older folks..... tend to discredit younger folks saying they know nothing.... but i digress lol!!!!!!!!

everyone knows something!

yeah LOL

age doesnt matter my Sir Dom Top whatever you wish to him is in his early x's but that doesn't make Him an less then say someone in there x's yes he has some more to learn but don't we all. Isn't life a journey we should learn on until the day we are no longer on the journey? Keep doing what You are doing is what I think.

of course.... just pointing out in some places on the net and elsewhere they tend to use age as a major factor in whether someone knows anything or not.... just adding that to the convo was all....

age can be a factor and yes,like it or not, thsoe of you in your twenties, haven't had experience of those in their x's it doesn't make you less mature or less D/s there are several posters here in their x's with their shit together, and certainly I know those much older that are clueless I say we can learn from each other

yes indeed

I know what you are saying though I was just encouraging you. Tis all.

yeah no worries mate

Honestly I am so happy with my Sir, even though he is younger then me. It doesn't even matter. He is just as Dominant as many older people. I am also kinda excited by the fact that I can be His first for so many things, and He can be my first for things as well.

I'd really have to think thatthrough after superglue... well it's a arduous journey to reenter the gates of heaven. I swore I'd never hit a woman, nope, never, my daddy taught me so. thatwent out the window, consensually of course.

My first real scene, even though a role play had face slapping, tit spanking, humliation, degradation, and name ing go swoooosh. Was it a hard limit? Not like many would say so, but it surely wasn't the way I was raised. And it felt so good and freeing. ahh. the beginning of a journey into BDSM.

can be very liberating indeed my friend yes i was taken back a bit but he reminded me that he takes care of me in all ways it may have been more a mind fuck than anything, but he has a point... I am glad you were brave enough to take that first step!

OK here is my input on this... so for a long long long LONG time.. I have said no to anal. Any kind of anal didn't mattter I didn't like it . it always hurt and I just didn't like it. Well that was until Someone was giving me oral and He had been feeling around down there with His hand. Well He asked if I liked this ( with his finger on my anus) I thought he ment the oral and I said yes happily, but he thought I was saying yes to anal. So he slipped on finger into my ass and OMG I loved it... he was so slow and gentle and the oral helped me to stay relaxed. I am not ready to take his package in my ass but I am more open to the idea and I do love his finger in my ass.. so time will tell. But yeah for a long tiem I said hellz no to anal, but that has changed.

thank you cj for that i think we all have our "no's" and with the right person will become "yes's" i do hope it's all you want and more

I don't think ti wa ahard limit for me was just something that had always been a painful un enjoyable thing in the past.

Well... early on I thought humiliation to be a hard limit because I didn't understand it in a thorough context. I viewed the name ing, face slapping, boundary pushing, etc. as degrading and not something I would ever enjoy. Thankfully with time and gradual introduction I have learned to appreciate the open/raw feelings this kind of play can produce.

smile that is wonderful s_w i think they evolve with time some thing are set in stone, but others can be drawn out through caring and trust humiliation is a HUGE one, andI still struggle with thank you for the share

TY for the question tc - I hope all is well with you and yours this evening!

as well as can be and hopes all is peaceful with you and yours

hi TooCute the hard limits we set have not been compromised in any way for us, and don't think they will be. Some things that I thought in the begining would be a bit taboo for me have been explored and expanded, but they were never set in stone type things. Gentle persuasion at all the right times and a full explanation of "why" is what changed my mind. Also becomeing more self aware. TY for asking an interesting question :) and hope you are doing well.....

it's all in the sales pitch, so to speak? LOL i agree and there are some things off the table for both of us...,animals,etc but the issue of trust has caused me to move many things from the "no fucking way" list to the "ok i trust you" list... and thank you Lite, it was dead and an attempt at discussion I am well and hopes you had a wonderful holiday

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