Question for the kinkfo: Is kink genetic? I've always wondered if such tendencies could be in the genes. I am sure that attitudes and morals can be passed down to our by the way we raise them, but I am talking about stuff they really wouldn't acquire through us directly. I've read a few posts here indicating that people on the forum have seen evidence that their have shown some tendencies, even prior to being sexual (such as rope play during make believe or dressing up) My adult son came home to visit and borrowed my laptop. He left it on when he went out, and I ed to tell him it needed to be shut off when left unattended because it overheats. He told me to go ahead, that he didn't have anything important open. I closed out of all of his stuff and the last page open was Literotica.com on story search. I had to smile when I saw that he searched the same keywords that "work" for me... (a mild fetish that I won't go into) So, do you think we come pre-wired and then if we're lucky we figure out what that trigger is?

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I'm sure it could be, but does it relly matter?

I'm fascinated by how the mind works... and I like to lern stuff :oP

i am fascinated by tittilated tittilations or um titties

I'm also fascinated by how the mind works Unfortunately I tend to over think. Let me think this over and re-think my over-thinking :-)

I may be overthinkng this now that I think about it. I wouldn't have thought twice if it hadn't been a page full of stories that I knew!

oh god i hope not. to imagine my..... parents doing/did what im doing. yuck.

I would imagine that cultural restrictions.... could cause people not to act on it. I didn't even figure some things out until later in life. Maybe exposure is a factor too.

LOL, can you imagine.... walking in on your parents, especially if they where like june and ward off leave it to beaver. I said get on your knees and gag on my cock june, but dear what if the boys find out? LOL EEEEWWWWWWW

Well, she always liked wearing that pearl necklace. ;o)

I think it has more to do with an open mind The fact that he was checking out stories instead of porn tells me he's into the eroticsm of the event and not just the nudity or sexual content. Sounds like you raised him to have an open mind. good going.

I do not think so same wording is thing but I am way worse that my father mother or brother.... the rest of my family takes a very conservative view on sex. I think Kink comes with your experiences and issue you develop when growing up. Family members do have similar issues to to the household environment so there can be something said for that.

I agree... I think what we do today, wether it be our kinky fetishes or the way we raise our all comes from what we learn growing up.

Good points... and you may be absolutely right. But I was also VERY conservative in my views on sex when I was younger. It took me a long time to realize that it was OK to let my mind wander over to the "dark side" a bit. Maybe being repressed a bit adds to the kink later.

LOL... That's funny. I re him once joking with his girlfriend about a threesome and my husband left the room because he didn't know how to respond. I just laughed and in unison with his girlfriend said "you wish!" andof these days I might share the search parameters.. but not just yet. I'm shy. hehe.

she put him out there I'm not really sure what my fetish is i have a few

This is an old question though.... Nature or Nurture? A little of both I believe. We are wired in certain ways that vary. This has not only to do with ancestry but the speed of our social evolution, which far surpasses the slow methodical plod of the genetics in our species.

That's what I'm talking about... little things like the handwriting being similar (without an opportunity for influence)amaze me. I think there may be more that's attributable to heredity than we think.

Absolutly..My mother taught me to write really..And I tried to imitate her style, but it never seemed right. I developed what I thought was my own, only to learn that it is almost identical to my fathers and I had not seen him for many formative years. Weird right..I agree absolutely.

That's oretty cool. ... and I'm sure it's no coincidence. While doing a search on this topic, I came upon a thread where someone asked if hood abuse may have triggered kinks. I find it interesting that I've seen that topic come up a few times and it seems as though it rarely has any obvious connections. You'd think it would in a way. The human mind sure is fascinating.

Pretty cool (sorry)

well crap Sheesh, why is it that posts here always seem to hit so close to home.... Angry minxy sex was due to former SO(?) being an idiot and worrying that later in life I will be like my mother (whom I never really knew) or like my grandmother (who is Bipolar). It seems that coming from a dysfunctional family is a death sentence for relationships. I'm fucked because there is no such thing as free will, [he thinks everyone becomes just like their parents no matter how hard they try not to be]. So this means that because I wasn't nurtured, I will not be capable of nurturing!?! I asked "are you afraid that I will be irresponsible with money? he said "No" (he laughed and said if anything, he would be) "Are you afraid that I will be a bad mother?" No, you're wonderful "Is the sex we have okay?" Are you worried about that? No, that never even occured to me. So my upbringing (lack of one) and family (also a lack of) is the fucking deal breaker. I haven't done anything wrong but someday, I *might*. WTF? I pounced on him and told him thatday he would be very sorry for that conversation and that his concerns would be something to talk about with a professional... *Sighs* during said conversation, he had the nerve to tell me that I'm beautiful when I cry (I tried not to, and I was silent when I did), *throws hands in air* Men. [end of minxy rant] now Is kink genetic? I don't think that it is. Defining kink in itself is tricky, so it would be a difficult theory to prove or disprove. It would certainly be an interesting study though.

ahem it seems that my interest in kink (a little hair-pulling, maybe some wax, my experimentation with sensations, some biting, some light bondage..) made him start to wonder. But, now he is humoring me more than ever. Rough sex occured after I said "I want you to lust me" he tangled his fingers in my hair, pulled my head back.. bit my neck and dug his fingers into my hip.... The kink worried him, but not enough for him to actually ask me about it. Now I've explained it... but the seed of doubt is already in his mind. We shall see.

Whoa.... You are thepiloting this plane! Simply stated, some people don't have the power to grow past their, uh, past. But many do and they don't repeat the sins of their parents. It's a choice. You seem VERY aware of not becoming what you despise, and I truly don't expect you ever could. You are a strong person, and in charge of who you are and who you will become. Nature and nurture matter, but free will does too! Rocky on minxy.

Dealing with crap is what responsible people do. The bums that don't deal with it pass it on. You should be proud for who you have become. You chose to be YOU and not just to allow the winds of the world to take you. {{{{{hug}}}}}

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