ALL Jokes aside. Why is it hard for a Bicurious Why is it hard for a Bi-curious woman to hook up? Are Bisexual women or Lesbian women scared that if they turn us out that we will fall in love or become a stalker? I thought it would be a turn on, like a power trip knowing you would be in control. I just want to meet someone who likes a very professional, sexy, voluptuous Italian woman for some no strings attached fun. Someone who does not being with someone, who has never been with a woman. M

I dunno But if I weren't spoken for....AND on the west coast......Maybe we could hook up.

Would you like to be someone else's experiment? Power trip may be a turn-on for some, but affection and connection are a bigger turn-on for many.

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WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE SOMEONE ELSES EXPERIMENT I did not mean to offend anyone!!! I apologize if I did. I am trying to understand why! No, I would not want to be someones experiment. I think meeting someone and having that first experience is very special to me and does involve affection & more. I want to know why is it hard for a bicurious woman to meet another for a NSA meeting, perhaps friendship and more? & for IS this Spam. Give me a break!! This is a forum and we are allowed to ask questions!!!!

What's in it for us? Very few queer girls view teaching a straight girl about lesbian sex to be a turn-on. There's a whole world of more experienced potential partners out there. What's in it for the more experienced partner? You bi-curious girls never seem to offer anything in your ads, just whine about nowanting to do you. It's always "Why Won't Anyone Do It With Me?!!" How about "Here's Why You Might Consider Doing It With Me." We're not an escort service, you know.

and I quote: Fropm your original post: "I just want to meet someone who likes a very professional, sexy, voluptuous Italian woman for some no strings attached fun." How special is that?

So a gay man comes to you And says "I just want to try sleeping with you once, no strings attached. I've fantasized about it since college. Don't worry, my life partner is okay with it, he understands." Are you going to jump on this opportunity as a straight woman? Is this the dream man you've been looking for? No. You'd realized you're being used, that this personal already has a partner, and your time and effort would be better spent looking for someone who actually wants, or at least could want, a relationship with you. Or maybe thats just me.

My sister would jump at the chance

Bad example I guess. :)

It was a good example I am not in a relationship with anyone for over a year. My relationships with men really have never worked. I hate men(sorry) Through the years I have found myself attracted to women. If some beautiful women would pass by or come into the room. I would think to myself she has a beautiful body, face, mouth, legs or she is just beautiful and I had a beautiful coworker. she was beautiful inside and out. Then I started fantasizing about being with a woman. Even when I was with my ex in the middle of sex. I would be with him and be thinking about a woman. I have never been with a woman still to this day. I am a good person with strong family values, with a good job. I am not sure if I would be happier with a woman. That is why I am looking for a friend and an experience. I put NSA not to hurt anyone feelings. Because I do not plan on hurting any I do not want my feelings hurt either. I just am not sure if once I am with a woman and have had the experience if that is the part that is missing in my life and would help explain why I am feeling this way or perhaps it is not. So the first posting you read even though it sounded blunt and cold. I was just trying to keep it real. Thank you everyone for your responses. I understand completely. I guess then I would want to start a new thread and ask how do you know?? Someone had to have gone through what I am experiencing or was married to a man before they realized they were gay.

enjoying sex with a woman is not the only defining factor of being considered bi/gay. can you develop emotionally involved relationships with a woman, as you would a man? do you see yourself going on dates, living with or having with a woman? if that turns you off, you might just enjoy the fantasy aspect of being with a woman, and NSA sexing might be as far as it'll ever go with you.

Thanks GertieDink Thank you for your response. That sounds very factual. Which brings me back to having the experience or developing a relationship with someone and see where it goes.

You hit the nail on the head there It's most definilty about having a life with the woman you love. Concider if you can even fall in love with a woman. Just thinking about it makes my heart melt.

if you've never had a crush on a woman ...a friend... a teacher... someone in your midst. i think you may not be very bi. it's more than just noticing someone's attractive qualities.

Yes I have In response to your post. I stated in an earlier That I have had several crushes. Thanks:)

yes, that's another factor that confuses a lot of women. many times, women admire other women for their attractive qualities - not insomuch that they want to have sex with them because of those qualities, but because they want to HAVE those qualities and that attractiveness as well. instead of it manifesting as jealousy, it comes off as appreciation, which leads them to wonder if they're actually turned on. women are sexy! but that doesn't necessarily mean you'd have sex with them.

Also, to add to the confusion, many (most? all?) lesbians will notice men and think they are attractive, hot, sexy, or whatever. This doesn't mean we want to have sex with them. It really confuses my straight friends when I see a guy or we're talking about an actor or whatever and I say "He's hot." I appreciate beauty in both sexes, but men just don't do it for me.

Ditto!

Women are beautiful so its understandable that you'd be attracted to them, whether or not your gay, bi or straight. The reason everyone jumps on you when you say "Why can't I, as a bicurious woman, find someone to just hook up with?" is because its somewhat offensive to those of us who choose to be with women in more then sexual relationships. Women are beautiful inside and out; understanding, appreciating and wanting to be part of that is all part of what would make you a lesbian. Reducing our lifestyle choice to being just a sexual fetish you can "test out" bothers us, and asking why we won't help you act upon that fetish bothers us further. If you think you might actually be a lesbian, my suggestion is, spend time with women who are. See if you develop feelings for them. See if being with them feels natural to you. Sure, experiment sexually, but don't think thats all there is to it, because it certainly isn't. Good luck.

Nytingal Thank you so much. I really liked your response and I feel that it is an excellent idea.

not all of them are beautiful. thats

oh so true.

Bicurous Women Keep an opened mind for the right person girl or guy. I just had my first lesbian experince x months ago. We are still together. It as been an emotional roller coaster ride. With my family finding out and the wholeyards. Before that, I was dating a guy for x years. But like you, I always fasinated about being with a women. Actually I craved it. And when we finally had sex for the first time it was almost too much for me to handle. It was wonderful!! We fit together perfectly sexually...don't give up she is waiting for you!!Go get her! cheers

i don't hook up w/ bi women -especially for nsa- because i won't sleep w/ someone i'm not attracted to and if i'm going to just 'hook up' its usually spur of the moment(after we've met and become attracted) and (while we should all be safety girls):/ i'm often not and don't know for sure that my partner is completely free of disease-i'm sure we've all done it*no judging*- and the bottom line is that women who sleep w/ men are at higher risk for contracting/spreading stds

if it's spur of the moment who's to say you're absolutely sure she hasn't slept with men recently?

true but, when dealing w/ a self professed, comfy w/ herself/her sexuality lesbian chances are..... i haven't slept w/ a man in...~~~smoke pouring out of ears~~~, geez x yrs, my ex...x yrs. i guess, in my experience lesbians don't fuck guys. ^^shoulder shrug^^ maybe i'm niave(sp?) but i like it:)

you'd be surprised x survey x self-identified lesbians from all x US states. The outcomes we measured were respondents' number of lifetime male sexual partners and partners during the past year, their lifetime history of specific sexual activities (e.g., vaginal intercourse, anal intercourse), their lifetime condom use, and their lifetime history of sexually transmitted diseases. RESULTS: Of respondents, x.x% had x or more lifetime male sexual partners, x.x% had a lifetime history of vaginal intercourse, x.x% had a lifetime history of anal intercourse, and x.x% had a lifetime history of a sexually transmitted disease. Exactly x.x% reported having had a male sexual partner during the past year. CONCLUSION: These findings reinforce the need for providers to know their patients' sexual history regardless of their reported sexual orientation, especially with regard to recommendations for Pap smears and screening for sexually transmitted diseases.

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