Should I be offended? Should I stop seeing this guy? I'm dating someone who I'm not totally myself around. He has definitely noticed, and said to me: "You'd be perfect if you were more self-confident and out-going because physiy youre beautiful." I got really upset and said to him that he's not perfect himself. I am offended, but at the same time he is right. My self-confidence has gone down the drain and so has my social skills b/c I've been unemployed. I feel very behind for my age and compared to other people. This has taken a toll on my confidence--but I didnt think it was that noticable. He keeps asking me out, but I'm hurt he'd say this to me and havent responded. Am I being too sensitive? I just think that's a big thing to say to some-that they're lacking self-confidence and social skills. what would you do? I really like him and we are good together. I kindof feel like taking a break to get myself together, assuming he'd still be there and he deserved another chance. should I be offended and dump him?

..and control your anger he forgot to add

ask him to be more understanding explain to him that you're not always like this and that you'd like his support

Decide not to be offended but do choose the break to get yourself together, you'll feel so much better. He'll be there or he wont when youre ready, its a risk you take, but if you continue on like this, it will surely end, and with hard feelings.

i agree with this

no not offended but yeah break it off

that's lions approach. he subtly tears you down by offerring "advice" but his utter disdain for women comes through

but, you admit, at least to us and yourself, that he's right?

yes he is right, but im offended senior want online adult say this like im not good enough is what hes trying to imply..like hes still searching for better

I disagree. If he was searching for better, he'd keep his mouth shut. He wants to know the real you. Maybe he didn't say it the right way, but I think he wants to make you more comfortable and get you out of your shell.