Screened him? what in the world does that mean? Hired a pi and had him followed? We dated for over a year, I knew what I needed to know but I can't help if he outwardly lied to me when he said he hadn't had an affair.

people have skeletons, are you a saint or something. There are things better left unsaid I suppose!

Are you following? I think you aren't getting this. It's not that he had an affair. It's that he purposely asked me (years ago) if I did and then I asked him and he said no. This is about him lying about it, when asked. And I only asked him, because he asked me. Go back to your surveys.

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So what is the actual girls seeking australian dating site , that is how is is connected to anything he is doing to hurt you today? or are you just looking for something to be mad about, so you can have something to hang over his head?

My god woman, do you think he is cheating on on you? If not let it go. Are you seriously contemplating divorce over that? What are the circumstance? My ex cheated on me all the time, while we were separated, I slept with another man (I am a woman). Why I thought it would make me feel better, to do to him what he did to me. He never knew, and I have only told a few people. I would tell a man I am dating, but surely not on the first date. I feel made a mistake, yes WE WERE separated, but in my mind I cheated, because we were not divorced.

Yes you are being unreasonable. This is something that happened between him and his then wife. Do you have absolutely no secrets from your life prior to him, even a really embarrassing one? They could have been on the verge of divorce. You don't know the situtation.

You missed the point here it's not that he had an affair. It's that when he asked me if I did, I was honest and said no. When I asked him, he lied and also said no. It's not the affair, it's that when asked, he lied to me.

You're right... he should have told you that it was none of your business. But regarding you thinking that he's cheating because he lied to you about something that doesn't involve you in the first place is way out of line. Keep in mind that he's not the same man he was over x years ago and he's not in the same situation.

He asked me he said how he thought cheating was terrible, howe it showed no resppect for the other. I asked him only because he asked me. And he said no, he nevver did and wouldn't. Why would he tell me it's none of my bisiness when HE ASKED ME, he brought it up. not me. I swear when you people respond to a post you don't read it first. None of my business I don't think so, he ASKED ME, only then did I also ask him.

Okay... I see your point of view to a certain degree and I'm not trying to invalidate your anger. But sometimes you have to pick your battles and from the outside looking in, this shouldn't beof them. Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?