my question of the day what qualities would you find acceptable (or even desirable) in a FB or playmate that you would not find desirable in a mate/sweetheart/spouse/etc.? Yes, some of you may find this reminiscent of a Pixie Poll from about 2 months ago, but it has new relevance to me.

Tons of Stuff For example, having congruent "money personalities" is so important in a relationship but not important at all for a FB/FWB/NSA. Also, spiritual orientation and political outlook, etc. But I bet you were thinking about the sex stuff weren't you? Well, I guess Neanderthal instead of Enlightened could work. For a relationship, I'd want a guy who knows he's playing but if I just wanted to get off - he could be King of the Goons.

I guess I should introduce myself I'm a Cali girl now but spent most of my adult life in the DC area. If you're a kayaker, you'd know me by a different handle - "Mothra". Gave up whitewater after losing 6 friends to the river and almost buying it myself. Back to indulging my type T (thrillseeking) personality in a bit of sport sex. lol

sport sex seems a little less dangerous. I've stopped doing certain things myself after losing a few of my friends. It's sad when that happens.

hello :) nice to meet you. I'm a DC girl for a little while now.

You back again?! :)

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You see that shit everywhere here.... Big brother trying to get all of us to turn on each other

i am a DC girl too. welcome to an awesome group - helpful and very open to share what they know/have experienced.

Hmm. Good Never thought about it before. Some traits I like FBs and relationships to have in common: trustworthy honorable intelligent sense of humor ability/willing to communicate does best not to cause harm to others Traits mainly for FBs + me: friendship based, not romantic. I prefer that we're at least mild friend. I don' t like to fuck pure strangers. not in love our interactions are irregular and casual. If I'm going to be visiting his town, I try and and e-mail ahead a few weeks and see if I can get part of the weekend with him. safe sex is a must. Period. not possessive/jealous about the rest of my life. not planning for anything outside of the short term.

Perfection

great answer!

great question! Oh geez, don’t get me started, lol… so many, so many, so many! The very definition of a FB, stands for all those things that I would never tolerate in a long term mate, to be quiet honest the only “mate” I could ever have full time (as in live together and all that) would have to be rather submissive or super duper independent and neutral. But that doesn’t turn me on the way the aggressors do… the very dominance, arrogance, cockiness that drives me nuts in bed, simply does not work when imposed on me in everyday life. Now I am exaggerating here, there are all flavours in between, take the guy I see now for example, he is way more than a FB but in essence is he really? We are not getting more committed because of (my own situational limitations first and foremost) but also because of much of his possessiveness, opinions on my choices, choice of clothes, friends, home, car, on and on an don… and what is “appropriate” behaviour for “his girl”. Another issue that I can live with in a FB but not a mate, is sexual trust. I trust him with my life and the lives of others (I really do), he is the most honorourable man I have ever encountered…. But when it comes to women, I don’t trust him as far as I can throw a dime! We don’t really run into these issues because we are FB, now FB to be clear, for me, doesn’t mean lack of depth, love, respect, intimacy, and vanilla company enjoyment… it is deep, known him for longer than i haven't... since i was x, it's as deep as I will go for quiet a while and possibly in some ways ever.

lovely answer and to be clear, i'm not saying there aren't standards for a FB/playmate. There still has to be trust and really good communication to start with. I'm just examining the ways in which the standards are different. you're so articulate. i heart you.

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I'm afraid it won't work for me...lol

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I &hearts angel *hopes this works*

see...that's what I'm afraid of!

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yeah, i just noticed that... :(

like this?

damn...why is it telling me... "no html tags in the title field" and all you guys do it? ...hfffp. and even in the body, i type it but disapears in the preview. Boy oh boy...somebody needs a spanking.

there's the xd jinx Somebody does indeed need a spanking.... *SPANK* Now try again and get it right.

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