Advice for virgins, anyone? If you could go in the waaaaay back machine and give your former virginal self (as well as current novices) advice, what would it be? And be descriptive dammit! Don't forget that I know nothing about sex, especially torrid, sinful, don't let the see this, Phil-sex. [N.B. The best I've got so far is to approach the situation with as much humor and patience as possible.] And a bonus question: Does your underwear match today? If not, kindly reveal the mismatched colors. Thanks!

My advice to my old self would be to chill. Big time. And relax. And I'm beyond mismatched... today I CLASH big time... red bra, neon pink panties.

to relax. i was so scared that i wouldn't know what to do. turns out i knew exactly what to do.. it was completely natural and easy to touch her. i match! blue hybrid boxer/briefs, white wifebeater (for gerts).

*growl*

down girl! i mean it. get down there. ha!

*salute* yes, sir!

hear that? that's frustration/lust from every fo reader across the globe.

there's really nothing to say except relax... really, everyone is a virgin atpoint & figures it out by themselves - it will be the same for you. just so you know, sometimes the first time is really the worst time, if you're both inexperienced and there's no passion. so keep your expectations realistic, and have faith in yourself - your instincts will tell you what to do :)

the best advice for that is to just relax and "do what comes naturally" It will be fine. I promise. Oh, and humor is an excellent idea. Specific advice: Teasing is your best bet. When you're playing with her clit, vary the motion (direction, intensity, speed) NEVER suck a clit (lick or rub or bite) unless she expressly tells you to do so (none of my tricks ever had). That's a hold over from big-hair, tongue flicking, girl-on-girl porn made by straight men and it should end there. If you're doing penetration (hands or toys), make sure you (again) tease. Never shove anything in. If you keep the finger/object still and have teased sufficiently, she will thrust onto it. Lastly, just "listen" for cues. When a person's aroused, the skin changes texture, a cunt may get wet (but this is highly variable, so don't stress if she's not the colorado river), and the nipples may get erect (but this is also variable and there's an inverse relationship between size of tit and nipple reactivity, FYI). If she's a good lover, she'll also give you either verbal cues (moans, screams, etc..) when you're hitting the right spot in the right way, verbal feedback ("a little to the left"), and physical cues (squiriming in delight, meeting your thrusts, etc...). Also keep in mind that every person you fuck for the first time is like a virgin. You have to learn how to fuck them specifiy. We all do. It's like coming out, you'll have to do it over and over again. This means that, save for some spectacular/rare instances of amazing chemistry and aligned taste, there will be a learning curve. Enjoy it. My panties do not match my bra. Panties: brown mesh with cream lace. Bra: black with black lace. Scandalous.

oh god. it's hard to type this withhand.

you think brown panties + black bra is sexy? ;-)

what? i can't hear anything right now.

[sigh]

technical question (wiwd, shark attack) I used to spend an absurd amount of time listening to the jocks in lecture hall (I always sat in the back to leave early).day, a really charming gentleman (note sarcasm) was complaining how the girl giving him a bj tried to kiss him afterwards. He then said, "****, I hate when they try to do that." So is that the consensus?